Category Archives: Learning Life

Surplus to Requirements

I’ve never liked Mother’s day. Trying to please a mentally ill mother is no one’s idea of a good time. I did or didn’t become a mother, depending on how you want to define that word. My mother died. I … Continue reading

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I was having a beer with several of the neighbours, chatting idly about how life has changed since Owen left. I said that I was thinking about getting another dog. Thinking, mind you. Thinking enough to look at Mastiff Breeders, not … Continue reading

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Wrestling and Mud

My father in law used to tell me to never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty, but the pig likes it. A high school friend posted that meme today. So I asked, were they not entitled to find … Continue reading

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Thin Strand

I’ve often thought that there is a cord that wraps through our lives. It carries our family memories, our passions, who we were, the worries we carry our entire lives. It wraps around us; our relationships they become strands within … Continue reading

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On the Night of My 38th Birthday

On the night of my 38th birthday, I met the system admin for dinner. I didn’t tell him it was my birthday when I texted to find out if he wanted to meet. I told him that my meeting was … Continue reading

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An Agnostic’s Lent

A friend tells this hilarious story about a meeting where one of his female staff announced that she was giving up chocolate and coffee for lent. He asked if she was also going to give up the affair she was … Continue reading

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Rose Quartz and Woo-Woo

I’m not into woo-woo. I call it woo-woo and I’m pretty fierce about science and evidence. I get exposed to woo-wo0 – I have a fair number of friends who are. I guess I should be clear – I’m not into … Continue reading

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Stronger Now

There are some falls that are almost cataclysmic. Things wobble and weave and you can see it coming. There are crashes so loud the very air echoes. And there are crashes that you only understand after they happened. Crashes that … Continue reading

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Past Tense

I remember this discussion with Kuri years ago where we she commented that if she really wanted to learn astro-physics, she figured she could. I am like that too. I flunked calculus twice. I really believe, in my heart of … Continue reading

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The Mark of Adulthood

After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul and you learn love doesn’t mean leaning and company doesn’t always mean security. And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts and presents … Continue reading

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