Category Archives: Life After Children

Women Like Me

Today is Rainbow Baby Day. Now, perhaps if I had a baby that lived after Gabriel I might be more of a fan, although I don’t think so. (This is a good time for an aside. I think for some … Continue reading

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Dreams Change

In my early thirties, as my body lost baby after baby, dreaming I was pregnant broke me. In my mid-thirties, after I decided I wanted off the ‘try and get pregnant/stay pregnant/lose another pregnancy’ rollercoaster, pregnancy dreams became less frequent. … Continue reading

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22

They wanted to sit outside in the sunshine, so as we walked around the corner I heard myself saying “There are tables around . . . .” Well, there were tables around that corner. 22 years ago. On Tuesday I … Continue reading

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Magic

She sat on the chair in her grad student apartment and she told me about the lecture on Marx and laws she was going to give. I took a picture, although she doesn’t realize it. I was struck by magic … Continue reading

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Untethered

I was cooking dinner when I realized it – with my mother gone and my son gone, I feel untethered. I am not actually untethered. I have a spouse, a house, bills, a job, friends, family. I am very much … Continue reading

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Free Puppies

I read a blog post a week ago about children in restaurants – more specifically about a restaurant that doesn’t allow children under the age of 13. Effectively the post was a “how dare anyone tell me where I can’t … Continue reading

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Syncopation

Back when I used to sing in choirs, occasionally in the alto line you would wind up providing syncopation to the soprano line. Syncopation is one of those 5 dollar words that means throwing something off kilter ┬áin music, quite … Continue reading

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Molly Weasley

Almost a year ago David, who is Nephew Travis’ boyfriend, texted me to tell me that the kids were watching the Harry Potter movies and they decided I was Molly Weasley. He has, I am fairly certain, been regretting that … Continue reading

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Right Where I am – 5 years, 6 months and 10 days

In the last few weeks two young women I know have had babies. One was a part of my youth group when I used to be a youth minister and one was the very first editor I hired for the … Continue reading

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If I am not

If I am not a mother, even of a dead child, what am I? I am many things. Wife, friend, child, Aunt. I am a knitter, a good cook, an erstwhile gardener. I am a management consultant, a sometimes project … Continue reading

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