Category Archives: Life After Children

Magic

She sat on the chair in her grad student apartment and she told me about the lecture on Marx and laws she was going to give. I took a picture, although she doesn’t realize it. I was struck by magic … Continue reading

Posted in Feats of Wonder, Life After Children, the nieces and nephews | 2 Comments

Untethered

I was cooking dinner when I realized it – with my mother gone and my son gone, I feel untethered. I am not actually untethered. I have a spouse, a house, bills, a job, friends, family. I am very much … Continue reading

Posted in Learning Life, Life After Children | 1 Comment

Free Puppies

I read a blog post a week ago about children in restaurants – more specifically about a restaurant that doesn’t allow children under the age of 13. Effectively the post was a “how dare anyone tell me where I can’t … Continue reading

Posted in Life After Children | 5 Comments

Syncopation

Back when I used to sing in choirs, occasionally in the alto line you would wind up providing syncopation to the soprano line. Syncopation is one of those 5 dollar words that means throwing something off kilter ┬áin music, quite … Continue reading

Posted in Baby Loss, Life After Children | 5 Comments

Molly Weasley

Almost a year ago David, who is Nephew Travis’ boyfriend, texted me to tell me that the kids were watching the Harry Potter movies and they decided I was Molly Weasley. He has, I am fairly certain, been regretting that … Continue reading

Posted in Life After Children, the nieces and nephews | 7 Comments

Right Where I am – 5 years, 6 months and 10 days

In the last few weeks two young women I know have had babies. One was a part of my youth group when I used to be a youth minister and one was the very first editor I hired for the … Continue reading

Posted in Baby Loss, Life After Children | 5 Comments

If I am not

If I am not a mother, even of a dead child, what am I? I am many things. Wife, friend, child, Aunt. I am a knitter, a good cook, an erstwhile gardener. I am a management consultant, a sometimes project … Continue reading

Posted in Baby Loss, Life After Children | 10 Comments

Two Planes and Twenty

I stood on my front porch this morning and watched two planes pass over each other. One slowly ascending and one descending. My hand held at arms’s distance marked them twenty degrees apart, the moment they passed under/over each other … Continue reading

Posted in Baby Loss, Life After Children | 2 Comments

Me too

I got an email from one of the co-ordinators the other day, asking me about my project allocations. Effectively, she was noticing that I was 130 percent allocated to projects, plus I was doing some internal work setting up a … Continue reading

Posted in Life After Children | 11 Comments

Resilience

If I could leave only a single gift to my nieces and nephews it would be that. Resilience. If I could only teach one thing to grieving mothers, it would be that. Resilience gets a bad rap. It gets trampled … Continue reading

Posted in Life After Children | 3 Comments