Category Archives: Life After Children

I Wonder

I sat, in a puddle of sweat, wondering. Tucked at my desk, in the corner of an office that was to be a nursery. My chair sits where the crib was going to be. I missed a spot of the … Continue reading

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I have no better explanation.

Than to tell you it was on sale, and I dearly wanted the star wars game and the gaming console came painted like R2D2 (with a controller painted like C-3PO). If you were wondering, Mr. Spit told me about the … Continue reading

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Structural Tension

One of the commentors yesterday asked if I wanted people to tell me about, what is in essence, their fertility. Did I want people to tell me they were expecting, did I want them to talk about their pregnancy? When … Continue reading

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Two Solitudes

I suppose there are two problems with the situation. The first is a bit more straight forward. I have a colleague, one I would have called a friend, and his partner was pregnant. The first I found out about it … Continue reading

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Even Here?

We had 8 couples over for our Marriage Group on Saturday because it was our turn to host. What turned into 17 people was far, far too many for our house. I found it, to be frank, quite overwhelming. There … Continue reading

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What Once Was

Every so often, mostly in that liminal space as I fall asleep or begin to wake up, my brain is free enough from the tethers I keep on it, the daily cares of life, and I begin to understand that … Continue reading

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Because I Will Get Old

I was chatting with Sys Admin today, just like I do more or less every day. (One of these days I should tell him I blog about him too. Alas, I think he would be disappointed in the way I … Continue reading

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If You Could

One of the bubbles on the white board of my life is the setting up of an endowment with all of my worldly wealth after I die. Well, not quite. We already donate money now, we can donate that money … Continue reading

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A Small Grief, Observed

It seemed to me, as I lay in bed last night,¬† the chief feature of adulthood is recognizing the end moments before they arrive. Rather than, and pardon my french, looking back and realizing “Oh Shit, I didn’t realize that … Continue reading

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Who Are You

The Condo thing started easily enough. I was sitting at my kitchen¬† table, eating take out pizza and reading cook book. (Let it be said that I have aspirations, if not time) Suddenly, I had this image, this vision of … Continue reading

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