Category Archives: Divorce

Back When We Were Babies

Posted on June 23, 2020 by Mrs. Spit

I woke up this am and Facebook told me it was my 19th wedding anniversary. Except, well, you know, not really. Christie and I had this conversation. We had it a bit in December, we had it a bit when … Continue reading →

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Cutting the Thin Strand – 3 Years On

Posted on January 8, 2020 by Mrs. Spit

Three years ago today I posted that Owen and I were separating. We filled out the divorce paperwork last week. At some point, pending administrative failure, my divorce decree will arrive in the mail. I find myself . . . … Continue reading →

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Winners and Losers

Posted on March 25, 2019 by Mrs. Spit

One of my colleagues asked me if I won. Can I tell you the truth? A long time ago, a younger version of me stood in front of God and her friends and her family and promised until death do … Continue reading →

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Turn Right for Hope

Posted on January 8, 2018 by Mrs. Spit

I have made the drive from Edmonton to Victoria more than once. Never on my own. Indeed, the drive was a feature of my married life and Owen drove most of it. On Sunday morning, as I left Aunt Peanuts, … Continue reading →

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It Came Without Tags, It Came Without Packages

Posted on December 12, 2017 by Mrs. Spit

I am typing this by the light of my Christmas tree, with about a quarter of a butter tart sitting on the couch arm next to me. The other three-quarters of the tart are safely ensconced in my tummy. It … Continue reading →

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Surplus Women

Posted on November 6, 2017 by Mrs. Spit

At the end of the Great War, the British called them the surplus women. They were the more than 2 million women who had no hope of finding a husband because a generation of men lay dead in the fields … Continue reading →

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There’s a Girl

Posted on August 14, 2017 by Mrs. Spit

I was standing in line at the hardware store. It turns out that I didn’t have any construction adhesive and was a bit short on 1/4round and trim will go better when you have some. The people in front of … Continue reading →

Posted in Divorce, Home Reno's Aren't for Weaklings | 3 Comments

Slowly . . . Accidentally

Posted on August 3, 2017 by Mrs. Spit

  I’m slowly learning about myself. It’s not deliberate or calculated. It’s a series of accidental observations. It turns out that I like doing yard work. I surprise myself at how orderly I am. I like the process of yard … Continue reading →

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In the Window (Staring Back at Me)

Posted on June 23, 2017 by Mrs. Spit

A few months ago I drove past the thrift store near my house and my wedding dress was on the mannequin in the window. I suppose this wasn’t a surprise. I had donated it some months previously. I held on … Continue reading →

Posted in Divorce, irrelevant reverence, Learning Life | 2 Comments

Ceterus Paribus

Posted on June 12, 2017 by Mrs. Spit

20 years ago September I was sitting in a very large lecture theatre, learning about the laws of supply and demand. The law of demand says Ceterus Paribus, when price increases we consume less of a thing, but if our … Continue reading →

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