Category Archives: Adult Dating

Not Quite >= Enough >= Too Much

If I close my eyes and really think about what I’ve learned in the failure of 4(!) relationships since I became separated, I’ve mostly learned that I need to cut my losses a lot sooner. You have to be, quite … Continue reading

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Do you Paint your Nails While you Cut your Loss?

When I got ghosted and then dumped, the dumping came with a “let’s have coffee and talk” sort of thing. I don’t remember exactly what the offer was. I sensibly, to prevent rumination, deleted the text. I said that I … Continue reading

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A Canticle for Atheists

From 1994 to 1997 I recited compline every night while I was at school. Within compline is a part called the Nunc Dimittis, it’s canticle – a portion of scripture that is recited together. Perhaps it was the sheer number … Continue reading

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Dreams Change

In my early thirties, as my body lost baby after baby, dreaming I was pregnant broke me. In my mid-thirties, after I decided I wanted off the ‘try and get pregnant/stay pregnant/lose another pregnancy’ rollercoaster, pregnancy dreams became less frequent. … Continue reading

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Not ok and still ok.

It isn’t ok. It will never be ok. And somehow, it will have to be ok. I’m making my way through the idea that some people find their person quickly. For some, it takes longer. And some of us? We … Continue reading

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Wind of Change

On the 10th of August I held open my front door for someone with two broken legs, and Bean ran out. He didn’t come home again. On the 12th of August, the guy I had been sort of seeing (who … Continue reading

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Possibly Not Solved by Numbers

I’m not doing well at the internet dating thing. By not doing well, I mean I’m on week 2, I’ve been on 2 dates and I haven’t found the love of my life. Actually, I haven’t found someone I want … Continue reading

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While Knocking on Wood, Crossing Fingers, Spitting and Throwing Salt Over your Shoulder

I present myself as a deeply rational person. I work in IT, I believe in science. I’m logical and sensible and not given to flights of fancy. Except for the parts of me that are deeply superstitious. Anna used to … Continue reading

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In Humble Defence

Years ago I was sitting in a church service, and the pastor argued if you were going to marry someone, the best thing you could do was see that person in a very wide variety of situations before you decided … Continue reading

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I like to think of this as progress

When I need to explain to people about how bad I am at dating, I tell them about the job interviewer who kissed me goodnight. (I may have missed something about why we were meeting for dinner) Last night the … Continue reading

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