Getting Older

I went to the spa in December and got a facial. I got, along with the facial, a lecture that the skin around my eyes is overly dry and I will get more wrinkles.

I am getting older, not anywhere approaching what could be old (whatever the definition of old is these days). I am getting older. I have had grey hairs since 16, but in the last year I have had five or six hairs over my forehead that stay silvery white, even when my hair is coloured. (I have named them for the co-workers that caused them).

I went to my GP for an annual check up and he decided to check and see if I was heading into menopause. ( I am hopeful!)

I keep thinking about these things, realizing that I am getting older. Don’t misunderstand, I am not having a huge crises, but I guess I realized that if I live to be 99, I have lived one third of my life.

I’m not quite sure what to do about it. I mean, I could buy an eye cream. I guess I could go to wherever one goes and find one, and put it on every night.

I find myself a bit resentful. Resentful that I am going to have add in the step of “put on eye cream” each night. Resentful that I might become that woman, the one who has an entire “beauty routine” as opposed to what I have always called “wash face, clean teeth, go to bed.”

If I try to break it down, it’s a lot of things. Most of it is what I guess you could call the adjustment. In my heart of heart’s, I haven’t aged. I felt like I was in my late twenties in university, and I still feel like I’m in my late twenties now.

Except that I (and the skin around my eyes) are in my thirties. Heading comfortably to my mid thirties. And that brings changes – to my body, to my life, to my outlook.

And I’m not sure what I want to do about that. I can’t ignore it – time is passing. I’d like to spend my time wisely. So here I am, thinking about age and what I want to do with my life, all because I have some wrinkles around my eyes.

It’s a strange feeling this.


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13 Responses to Getting Older

  1. Natalie says:

    I’m headed into my 30s this year, and it is kind of a weird feeling. Like you said, I still feel like I am in my early 20’s, in college (well technically I’m still in college). and yet when I think about all the shit I’ve gone through in my 20s, how much older I feel emotionally… yeah, I guess 30 fits. But still. It IS weird.

  2. HereWeGoAJen says:

    I got my gray hairs at 25. I like the idea of naming them after co-workers, but I’d have to name mine after my dad and grandmother from whom I inherited them.

    I probably should get some eye cream too. Let me know what you decide on.

  3. Kate Smith says:

    Here’s some great advice I like to pass along: whatever moisturizer you use on your face, use it on your neck and decolletage too.

    I’m 49 and I don’t use eye cream because it bothers me. I use Aveeno face moisturizer because I like the scent and it doesn’t make me break out. Your mileage, as they say, may vary.

  4. Carmen says:

    I still fell like I’m in my twenties too. But at my last eye checkup (where I was gently told I do need glasses) that my eyes were showing signs they usually see in people in their mid thirties… Not early thirties. Eep! I’m noticing more wrinkles, and other signs, but I’m still ignoring them. If you find the perfect eye cream perhaps you should let me know 😉

  5. a says:

    Hahahaha! You’re so young and naive! 😉

    Wait til you hit 40 and find yourself needing reading glasses overnight. I second the idea of the neck and decolletage moisturizing…

    And regarding the facial routine – I think the movie is The Truth About Cats and Dogs, where Jeanine Garofalo goes on a rant at the makeup counter. The movie is OK, but that part amuses me…

  6. Gail D says:

    And after your 40s comes your fifties. Things grey, wrinkle and sag. Oh well, look your best and carry on with the things that are important in life. I still feel I’m me, but I like this age better.

  7. Gail D says:

    And after your 40s comes your fifties. Things grey, wrinkle and sag. Oh well, look your best and carry on with the things that are important in life. I still feel I’m me, but I like this age better.

  8. Andie says:

    40 is staring me in the eye … later this year!

    My routine is brush teeth, wash face, put on aloe vera juice, go to bed. I really like the aloe because it is unscented, vitamin E. feels good to me, etc. The kind I get is of the Desert, I think – it is aloe, water, and a bit of preservative – the best mix I have found to date.

    one of my obsessions is (or when I have time, it is) making my own home cleaners and care products. I used to make a little mix of the aloe extract with some other stuff – glycerin, distilled water, etc. … but it has been about a year since I’ve done that – I just go the simple and easy route of aloe extract only.

  9. Aunt Deb says:

    Well, speaking from the age of 58 and having some of the same genetics as you….don’t worry about the face, worry about the best darn bra you can find! Dye fixes the hair, makeup can smooth the face, but those other parts …well, they are a little harder to fix. Did you know that you had a great great aunt who was silver when she was in her early 20s? Your grandfather had grey hair in his teens. You still look very young for your age.

  10. Barb says:

    I need to go back to Clinique and be reevaluated for my skin care. It’s kind of sad to me too. The other day I had a huge ACK that I will be 35 in no time at all, and Hub 37 at about the same time.

  11. Jamie says:

    It is a very strange feeling. I’ll be 35 in a couple of months and it sounds so much older than I really feel. Not to say that I don’t feel every bit of 75 on some days, but you know.

    I think I notice it the most in June when new nurses are just getting their license and starting to work in the hospital for the first time. I can see a memory of myself in them and then I realize that memory is 13 years old.

    Yup – my night time routine is taking on many news steps.

  12. Sharon says:

    I was your age when I started using Olay moisturizer regularly. I then used Origin products for about ten years, and now I’m back to Olay Regenerist for day and night. It makes a difference – I can tell when I see friends my age or a bit younger who haven’t made the decision to take care of their skin. You will be grateful in twenty years. And believe me when I say skin care is the easy part; wait until regular exercise becomes necessary and not just a good idea.

  13. loribeth says:

    You wrote this post on my (gulp) 51st birthday. So believe me, you are still a spring chicken in my books. ; ) I’ve been using Clinique & Estee Lauder products since I was in my mid-20s/early 30s. I’m not sure whether they really help — but I don’t think it hurts. ; ) I just wish I’d known more about how important a moisturizer with SPF was when I was in my teens & 20s (& that without it — & with birth control pills — your skin is much more susceptible to sun damage). Of course, I’m not really sure such a moisturizer existed back then. Times change!

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