I met Ms. Fab for dinner a few weeks ago and we were discussing if I wanted to change my hair colour yet again, and she complimented me on my peaches and cream skin.
To which I laughed. And she wanted to know why I was laughing.
I told her that I had terrible skin. She looked, surprised, and asked how so.
Which is when I realized – I don’t have terrible skin – not any more. I had terrible skin until about 2 years ago when I gave up drinking milk. I actually have great skin now. A bit prone to shine, but otherwise in no way requiring foundation. Most days I put on a light dusting of powder and some blush and I call it done.
Things change, sometimes slowly and we don’t seem to realize. I spent a bunch of time on the flight home, thinking about all of the things that have changed in the last 5 years, in the last 2 years, in the last year and how things can change so incrementally that we forget to let go of the old stuff, not realizing that it just isn’t applicable any more.
The problem is in the carry over. The problem is that we carry things with us, even when it doesn’t make sense. It’s a reality I see in my professional life all the time, I go talk to someone about their process and they have changed the IT system and the staffing model and the legislation but they still haven’t changed the process.
You, we, all of us don’t think about this, not really. What would trigger us to think about it. Can you make a list of the things you believe that you shouldn’t? How would you know until you really looked at it?
Which is where I find myself – in the sure and certain knowledge that I do believe things, and more than that, the act of believing in things causes me to act in particular ways and those ways don’t work.
So, I ask you – how do you think about what you believe in and realize that you shouldn’t believe that any more?