Scared Off

I went on a date the other night. He was a nice guy. (It’s not going anywhere, but it was a fun night).  He commented that I probably “intimidated the hell out of a lot of men”. Which is true. They look at my education, my ambition, my drive, my paycheque and my competence and they . . . well, they run away. I get first dates and not second dates.

Yesterday, on an online dating site, a guy messaged me. I wasn’t interested (I require you to wear a shirt and be able to spell). I responded with my very standard “thanks for your message. I’m afraid I’m not interested, best of luck in your search.” I was told I wasi looked at my profile again and not a very attractive lady” (yes. sic.)

Today I posted a photo of my new cordless drill on facebook. This is the first tool I’ve bought for myself. I’m excited. I drill pilot holes and knows the difference in screw types. I’m all grown up now. My cousin came along to tell me that I had bought the wrong drill.  I cannot for the life of me find the instruction to not use my drill if you have testicles, but apparently, only a girl buys a black and decker drill.

Hilary Clinton. There’s one thing that never quite made sense to me – why was she so hated?  All those investigations, all that scrutiny, and yep, a few hinky things. But Donald Trump?  You cannot tell me that you think Hilary Clinton was more crooked or more incompetent than Donald Trump. I will not believe you.

There’s one thing that never quite made sense to me – why did you American’s hate her so much?  All those investigations, all that scrutiny, and yep, a few hinky things. But Donald Trump?  You cannot tell me that you think Hilary Clinton was more crooked or more incompetent than Donald Trump. I will not believe you.

I think it was a smoke screen. I think a bunch of people – men and women – they couldn’t stand the fact that Hilary thought she was capable of becoming president. They couldn’t stand the fact that she didn’t simper or giggle or make herself small. She stood on her qualifications and her skills and she told us she’d worked hard and she was capable. So you said she was crooked or dishonest and you leapt into bed with a misogynistic, bigoted homophobe because at least he wasn’t an ambitious woman. When the rest of the world tried to tell you what you were doing, you told us to shut up because we didn’t understand.

Except we did. We saw what was happening.

I think of Hilary and I don’t feel sick in my stomach. I get that hard to breathe because I’m panicking feeling. That’s what the world does to ambitious and capable women. It destroys them for having the gall to believe in themselves.

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4 Responses to Scared Off

  1. noemi says:

    This. This this this.

  2. Barb says:

    I didn’t hate her. I voted for her. I found her far preferable than Donald Trump. And she did win the popular vote so I take solace in knowing most Americans agree with me. I also entirely agree with you. When she was first lady, people went on and on about how she dared to wear the pants in the relationship and Bill was whipped. They called her President Hillary.

    But I also think we’re seeing a backlash of a few things.
    1. Against having a black president for 8 yrs and Trump validating lots of ugly things.
    And
    2. People so fed up with gridlock and party over country & constituent politics that they voted for Trump simply to try to shock the system or out of desperation with the ever failing possibility of the American Dream. Many who voted Obama switched to Trump.

    I think it’s misguided and don’t agree with it, but I see it.

    Thanks for your posts. I love reading them.

  3. loribeth says:

    Online dating — you are brave!! (And I commend you for your high standards — I wouldn’t be able to abide spelling errors either, lol.) As for those who run away, intimidated — their loss.

    I am with you re: Hillary. I don’t think being a woman was the only factor held against her (as Barb noted above) — but it was a big one. 🙁 Why else was Elizabeth Warren reprimanded in the Senate for trying to read a letter from Coretta Scott King, and yet not just one, not just two but FOUR male senators were allowed to read the same letter without any protest?

  4. Debby Hornburg says:

    Weighing in the the tRUMP issue, I say this one thing: I believe that he is a result of a black man holding office. That shocked a lot of people in small backwater towns, mine included. And the backlash from that was to elect a bigot.

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